Big Failure

This post has been edited by Küðï Þµñjðßåñ: Jun 1 2007, 04:11 AM

whats this ?

is it real ?



though its nothing like desi parents fight.....

i guess NRI who moved abroad still have typical indian mentality - back here in india..india is changing and so is the mentality of the ppl in urban areas changing....now if ppl in abroad have same mentality...then obviously this is what is going to happen

ah ha so what u tryin to say dat no couple in India ever has to face any kinda problems??
And fights have nothing to do with urban or rural mentality..if fight is regarding why their kids are dressed western den u can say mentality is backward...Plus Typical Indian Mentality is way off topic...Typical Indian Mentality deals with certain way of dressing..certain fashion sense..and Male domination and stuff

this thread deals with fights dat are a part of almost every married life..These fights are beyond Cultures but we narrow down the focus on desis *coz daz but we all about *....every couple have their fair share of arguments..some parents decide to do it more stealthy way while other's don't...almost all white folks have same issues..definitely u can never get a perfect partner..coz human brain is always iffy and looking for something even better..thing is we desi's decide to handle stuff differently...ie why don't we desi's go to cops as often as white folks regrading family matters ...and no matter how developed mentality Indian couples be you wont get the idea of calling Cops and telling 'em dat ur family is having problem..coz in india prolly cops will not even bother to listen but here it means u can get up separated from ur parents as they want a better environment for kids.

Plus No matter how much u change the stress factors can never be eliminated...as i said my mom is really worried about my grandparents..they are alone and helpless out there ...coz some of ppl with changing minds are dragging them to courts and stuff coz they want land which is owned by mom .. now i really dunt get this how can someone outta blue comes up and says dat this land belongs to me?? Changing eh?? Plus she works in hospital and trust me dat aint dat best place in world to work..once i was in there with my mom and there was in old lady with some crazy brain disease .. and i was having a lil chat with her son about what happened to his mom and she comes up goes like " you kneeegrow *sugar coated version * stay away 4m my son and he was like "now u know what happened to her"

So this topic is beyond the changing mentality of Indians which mentality basically encourages 'em to copy the west.


This post has been edited by Küðï Þµñjðßåñ: Jun 1 2007, 02:22 AM

babe, this is a personal thing, & between ur parents only
dunno why u need to open a topic for this

every couple has their own problems & way of dealing with things
how wld it help them discussing their problems over a public forum?

& if u r saying no couple in India has problems, so do all couples in the West too
don't title this thread 'Desi Parents' as if all parents r doing the same
this generalisation is too wide & blurred

better tell us what u want out of this topic, coz i guess i have no idea
seems like u were using this place like a personal diary

well i dunt get DDF...coz on other forums these kinda topics are very common..and ppl actually talk about it..but hmm i guess in here all u can talk about it wet pussies and big boobs......Plus i didnt say every family has problems but majority of them do..i dunno why you all love to discuss your fantasy world and fantasied images only ..why cant u once sit here and discuss matters dat are real..u call each other DDF Family and no one ever discusses about each other..well difference between those forums and this is dat ppl involved in those topics are all Desi but Non-Indian ..and possess a u noe "changed mind already".... i dunt think just by listening to Punk Rock or by walking bare naked one can be modernized...or by adding sex scenes to your same old BS love stories makes them western....this topic speaks for narrow mindedness dat prevails in here. A topic dat asks "will you blah blah your mother" gets a better response than this..i wonder why?? The mind changing will take place when u guys will be ready to discuss anything else than pussies..i mean take a look in this discussion sub-forum" will you have sex with midget" a hit topic..."a virgin wife" hit topic.. "do skools prepare kids for real life"..no one gives a shit.."should teens be prosecuted as adults" no one gives a shit ..so which way is the mind change going?? our minds are transferring from heads to ur pants???

And as for part in red..it says Desi Parents...not "all desi parents"...try to read ..i clearly wrote dat couples in west have problems but the main discussion was about the difference in way they are handled...desis follow a very different approach den whities..and what should the title be then 97.567343435% desi parents or something on those lines dat deals with precise data ...

lolzz
funny observation
anyways, we can discuss any topic u want
whatever u say

& well, some of us can manage can think beyond our pants too

anyways, the point i cldn't realise was what u wanted from those who read this, that's what i asked u
& no need to get angry or upset
i've written lots & lots here, many on serious topics n all
so what if many ppl didn't read it? i'm still here, ain't i?

as for these kinda problems, to be truthful, it's individual perspective
u wanna discuss here, go ahead & discuss & we'll try to figure out the solutions for u
as for me, i prefer to deal with my real life problems myself (they don't call me arrogant for nothing, do they? )

well dat observation is right ..aint it
i aint gettin angry ...daz juz the way i talk...yea a lil upbeat at times ..okie most of the time...okie all the time
just thoot bt startin a topic here coz to be honest i am member of 6-7 forums only and all forums are very active...and these kinda topics are very common ova thea!!!
My Problems wont last long ...as i am going to Cali in summer

Cali? u going to Cali Cox?
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Hey guys I missed out all the action in here. Were u by any chance mentioning that desi parents (Whatever percentage) were a big failure?? I think NOT. Marriage is a complex journey and there are bound to be differences in each and every marriage. In context of desi parents, they are used to a strong social support back home in India which is altogether missing in the foreign societies. So they need to cope up with the dispute all by themselves most of the time there and hence there could be a higher level of dissonance there. Had they had a dispute in India, some sibling or parents or some aunt or some friend is always there to help them neutralize the situation. I dunno whether I am contributing here at all becuz I might have missed out Kudi's point totally. Check me if I am wrong.

First off topic reply dat i loved!!!

So I was Off-topic after all!

yes u were *giggles*

Topic title - Desi Parents. First post - Big failure.

My humble query - Desi parents as in ABCD/CBCD/UKBCD/NRI parents??