Its fine when a young guy or girl leaves the home of his/her parents to create a world of his own. But after many years, may be decades, when they grow too tired and old to fend for themselves, should their children ask them to move in with them or, let them stay alone?
When a child is small and physically dependent, its the parents who support him/her and teach him to walk and grow up.
Similarly when the old parents are too old and frail and become physically dependent, should the son or daughter let them stay and struggle alone ?
Or Should they hire some helping hand to help their parents out in their day-to-day chores?
Or shift them to some home-for the aged in the golden years of their life?
Or stay with them and support them?
Please let me know your views on this subject.

The sons and daughters have an obligation to care for their elderly parents. Depending on where they live and on the options available, all solutions should be considered. The parents should not feel that they have become a burden. They should be loved and appreciated.

Agree ^

I strongly believe that looking after your parents and staying with them when they get old is an obligation, when we are born, our parents feed us and look after us, they fulfil all our wishes and bring us up in the best possible way, when we need them they are standing in front of us always to guide the way. If we do that in return, it would not hurt us, many ppl i know are happy because their parents are living with them. My brains off ryt now.. il write more on the subject 2mrw

The same old KP saying," There are always 2 sides of a coin."

For me in this case, there are 2 possible decisions (None of them includes not caring about parents.)

*Lets say I am married and have a family of my own.*

I Would love to stay with his parents and serve 'em. Will give it all i possibly could to satisfy 'em.

Now lets move to worst case scenario, Just assume that my In Laws are a bit nosy and are dictating my married life (Ah i will never let that happen). Then i go to Plan B, in which i try to give them the respect and time with their grand kids (which they deserve) whilst maintaing control over my husband and my kids. How do we do that? Move out, buy a house like couple of blocks away. This will give me the privacy i am entitled to and make them feel like we are all living together. Secondly, In case of emergency we'll be able to provide 'em assistance (as they are living right next door)

Hey Dulhan, u need to take care of your brains and switch off your computer before your brains switch off.
KP, How do you pack so much sense in that attractive, slim seventeen year old frame of yours?
Very well said- its better for the children to stay with their parents and if the daughter-in-law or son-in law finds it difficult to live with the in-laws then tghey can definitely live together as good neighbours.
Thanx for supporting, d-advocate, btw, was that a legal point of view?

lol i was tired

I thought u guys'd find it kinda stoopid!

Glad u understand

I agree my parents took care of my one of my grandparents

one should always respect ones elders, regardless of what has happened in the past. if your parents looked after you then you should look after them

This is a very interesting topic, I agree with most of you regarding our responsibilities/respect towards aging family members...
I have a feeling that further DESI generations are forgetting our culture of filial piety (respect and love towards one parents)...
I think that the nature of respect is changing, and this sense of filial piety may be seen differently by more western Desi, however, this can be the case 'back home' as well...

There is also a cultural element that we should be cognizant about. For example, Desi's may be torn between two cultures: a western culture that promotes individualism VS a collective culture of family unity that has been passed down from our ancestors...

Parents who moved from their native country to the western world have a key role to promote the values that they wish to preserve....and this requires extra awareness and attention especially in a individualistic society....sometimes they may not realize that something that is passed naturally from generation to generation can be greatly interrupted when children are faced with differing values than their parents.

Yeah Ajay It could be true that the migrated desis might have imbibed a set of different cultural values to some extent. But the problem of not tending to senior citizens is equally rampant in Inida and is aquiring bigger proportions.

Thats true,
For example, even in Japan (where there is an abundant aging population) many elderly are being left to fend for themselves...
There are also instances where a child migrates to a different country...and basically abandons or never communicates with his parents ever again...
and now its reached a point where the government promotes senior appreciation day amongst a bunch of other interventions...

It unfortunate society has become this individualistic, selfish, and unreceptive to the needs of the elderly.

I do believe that the children have the burden placed on them of taking care of their parents. Their parents did so much for them and why should they just let them go?